RuPaul is right.
The struggle is real, and it will continue to be real.
So, I’ve started asking myself the following questions;
“What pain are you willing to sustain? What do you want to struggle for?”
These are questions created and addressed by Mark Manson.
This man actually asks the real questions and some of these questions are really hard.
The basics behind this is we often share what it is that we want.
The things we share are often about having the perfect life, but it doesn’t address what we are willing to do to get it.
Recently, I’ve come into a transitional phase in my life.
One where I have to address “Who am I and what do I value?”
So far I’ve been answering this question based on past experiences and expectations outside of myself.
The truth is that some of the things I want to do might seem strange.
I recently got a job as a remote customer service person.
Basically like a call center for your home.
I’m excited for this because I’ll still get to help people, even though a lot of them may be angry.
Teaching middle school, heck, even kindergarten has prepared me for this.
Now, before you get all judge-y about call center jobs let me tell you a story.
It’s about three masons, putting a building together.
All three of them are doing the same job.
The first one had the mindset of, “I’m just laying some bricks.”
The second one said, “I’m making a building.”
The third one said, “I’m building a house of God.”
The difference between the three is this; the first one saw what he was doing as a job, the second one a career, and the third one saw what he was doing as his passion.
I want to reiterate that they were all doing the same type of work.
It’s about the mindset behind the work.
When we talk about passion, we see it as something outside of what we are already doing and it comes from a place of lack.
The place we should start with is what we already do, what we like to do, and how we can use those things we like to do.
Then, we can channel them into what we already do or find other places that those things would be helpful.
So when it comes to doing this new job…
The thing that most excites me is the combination of these things while helping people understand the fine print.
If you know me, you know I read EVERYTHING.
I get particular joy reading through health plans.
If someone is struggling with anything that requires combing through the fine print, I’ll go through and help them figure out if they are justified and what they can do.
So the pain I’m willing to sustain is to help people resolve issues with medical insurance jargon.
Do I think I will be building houses of God doing this? That remains to be seen.
I’m so pumped about this, though.
That may sound strange to some people, but I’m no longer basing my life on the opinions of others.
That’s how I lost myself in the first place, and now have to struggle with questions like this in my 30’s.
Of course I’m learning that doesn’t even matter because no matter what our age we are transitioning in one way or another.
What is it that you are willing to struggle for?
Until next time.
(Note: If this spoke to you or you know someone else who needs to hear that they should just let themselves enjoy the things they actually want to struggle through, give it a share. I am also not getting anything out of sharing Mark’s stuff. I just think he is asking the real questions and putting the unfiltered truth into the universe. Seriously, read his stuff. The same goes for Angela Duckworth.)