A favorite song lyric and what it means to me.

“What will it take to show you that it’s not the life it seems. I tell you time and time again you say the words, but don’t know what it means to be a joke…”

This lyric is from the song “I’m Not Okay (I Promise)” by My Chemical Romance.

“What will it take to show you that it’s not the life it seems?”

For me it was a kick in the teeth or as of a week and a half ago, a dresser in the teeth.

“I told you time and time again you say the words..”

I’m fine.

“…and don’t know what it means.”

The entire song is one I belt out when I’m having a bad day, and sometimes even a good day.

There’s really something cathartic about cranking it up and letting go.

These lyrics in particular speak to me because the words are things I want to say to people in no uncertain terms.

However, it’s not socially acceptable to tell people you’re not okay.

The fantasy that we have to be okay at all times is expected.

When you don’t fall into that line, and step off of it, you seem to be the joke.

Appearing to be okay all the time is honestly toxic and pretending that we are all okay all the time is the joke.

Sometimes it’s better to not be okay than it is to be okay. I promise.

Until next time.

Classically,

Angela

My Top 5 Goals for the Rest of This Year

Previously I wrote a blog post on 5 tips to set goals and the mindset required to achieve success. In this post, I share my personal goals for the rest of the year.

Previously I did a blog post on goal setting.

I gave 5 tips and the mindset necessary to set yourself up for success.

In this post, I want to share what my goals are for the rest of the year.

I went ahead and purchased a planner to help out with this process.

The planner I am using for this year is the Go Girl Planner.

What’s nice about this planner is that it is split into 3 sections.

The first section has to do with casting your vision, the second segment is a monthly planner, and the third is a weekly planner.

I decided to go with a weekly planner this time because daily planners get heavy and cumbersome.

Also, while I enjoy the ones that ask you to write daily affirmations and quote of the day and gratitude on every page, it becomes overwhelming and even more time consuming than helpful.

At least that was how it was when I used one of those types of planners while I was a teacher.

I have a little more time now, but the lesson learned is that I can spend time taking action in other places, but never, ever forget to express gratitude in some form or another.

In 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Cover recommends using a weekly planner for each area of your life instead of breaking it down day by day, minute by minute.

He shares an anecdote about how his son did it that way, and scheduled in a 15 minute block to break up with his girlfriend. Obviously, this took longer than 15 minutes and derailed his minute by minute plan for the rest of the day.

Anyway the steps in the first section of the planner is casting your vision.

Before I took pen to paper inside my planner, I used a notebook to think all of this stuff out because I knew my brain dump was not going to fit on this one tiny page. After I did that I followed the steps in the planner.

The steps in this section are casting your big life vision. Then, create 3 goals from the 7 areas of your life.

Then it takes it a step further, stating that sometimes we overestimate what we can accomplish within a year, so out of the 21 goals I wrote on the previous page…

I picked the 5 big ones that I am going to share here.

Goal #1: I am walking for 30 minutes a day, 5 days a week.

The major action steps to make this happen that I chose are pick 3 specific times of day to walk, have my shoes ready by the door (with socks), set alerts on my phone, and pick safe spaces to walk. With the way things are right now, the last one is the most important to me.

Recently I adjusted this plan to simply start with 15 minutes of physical activity a day 5 times a week.

This came as a reevaluation of what I can accomplish right now.

This adjustment largely came because when I went outside to take out the trash it felt like a level of hell outside that I don’t think I can handle.

Walking up and down the stairs in my air-conditioned home for 15 minutes? I like that idea better.

On another note, this reminds me of a program I used to do from Nerd Fitness. The concept is that you treat exercise like a video game and you get experience points based on the type of activity. I think I may see if I can access my account there. If you like video games and want to become the next Aqua Man, but aren't sure how to get started? Hit up Nerd Fitness.

Goal #2: Make $4,000/month, and do so by 1 year from now.

This is kind of a big goal, but the plan is to replace and even exceed the amount of money I was making while teaching in the public school system.

The major action steps are to get my LLC for my proofreading business and my private studio, create streams of residual income through writing an eBook, implementing an effective internet marketing strategy, and making sure that I follow up with clients effectively.

I know there are other places where I can monetize things, but I think sticking to those for now would be good.

If you are looking to monetize your blog though, it appears that WordPress has webinars on Tuesdays addressing this specific topic.

Goal #3: Trust myself to let go of things, be responsible enough to break down and follow through with plans, and really trust myself to accept my positive and negative traits for what they are.

The timeline on on this goal is really the rest of my life, but this is something I think was worth putting in writing.

The major action steps for this goal are to meditate regularly, making sure that I am practicing patience while taking things in smaller chunks, follow my plans, and review and reflect on those plans regularly.

Goal #4: Pay off my Capital One card by the end of this year.

I’m going to come clean. I have 3 credit cards, all of them are close to maxed out. While getting all three of them paid off, it’s reasonable to say that paying the minimum on two and putting extra on the third one seems more feasible than throwing extra money at all 3 and hope I don’t go over budget throwing everything at them.

The action steps on this one are monitoring my subscriptions, i.e. where are they coming out of, assessing need vs. want when making purchases, and stay within my weekly allowance.

As I’ve gotten older, financial literacy/acquiring wealth have become increasingly important to me. In my late teens/early 20’s my eyes were bigger than my wallet.

Now I’m working towards the opposite direction, my wallet being bigger than my eyes.

That’s a strange way to put it, I know.

There is a lot of great literature out there on finances, but my favorite so far has been Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki.

Goal #5: Take time to relax and engage in some form of play and/or connection everyday.

This one isn’t in SMART goal form, but letting go of being type A sometimes and doing relaxing activities is going to be a main goal of mine.

Brené Brown talks about the importance of play in her book The Gifts of Imperfection, and I believe Daring Greatly.

The major action steps here are to take time to draw, write, play with my cat, and make sure family movie night happens.

If you’ve been following my social media accounts, you’ll see that my cat and I have been enjoying the new recliner.

In my planner I have actually set everything in 30, 60, and 90 day cycles just to make sure that I have enough data on a goal to review and adjust depending on what it is.

I decided to share these things here because I wanted to show how I personally applied some of what I wrote in a previous blog post, but to also get a little accountability as I grow and evolve for the rest of the year.

I also hope having this knowledge will help you on your journey in some way.

Classically yours,

Angela