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Reading Manga: Physical vs. Digital

As I sit here looking at my poor bookshelf, I can’t help but think about the evolution of reading.

I started collecting manga when I was in middle school, and I believe my first series was Peach Girl by Miwa Ueda.

If you don’t know about the series, it follows Momo, who is blonde because that’s her natural hair color, and tan because she was on the swim team.

However, her “best friend” Sae is basically out to ruin her life for seemingly no good reason, and unfortunately, Momo is an easy target.
People who look like Momo tend to have a bad reputation, so Momo is easily the butt of the rumor mill, and Sae is the miller.

The Peach Girl collection grew to Chobits by CLAMP, then Dragon Knights by Mineko Okhami, and so on.

My bookshelf is inundated with my book collection; however, I haven’t purchased a physical manga in years though, thanks to the advent of smartphones and apps.

An app can give you access to EVERYTHING without accumulating a lot of books to find space for.

My favorite manga reading apps include the Shonen Jump app and the Viz Media app.

Both of these have allowed me to keep up with One Piece, Black Clover, and soon I’m going to start reading Yona of the Dawn because the anime ended way too soon, and that made me a little sad.

Something about it not being popular enough or whatever.

Yona is good. You should read/watch it. Just watch out for Su Won.

That guy makes me want to throw things.

Anyway, each has its pros and cons, and it depends on how you like to read in general.

I love digital because my phone is always in my hand anyway, and up until recently, I was moving around a lot.

One of my best friends prefers print because she likes to physically hold the book and be able to look at her collection.

She pointed out that her vast collection is partially my fault because the first manga she got was a gift from me.

Physical or digital, whatever your manga reading preferences, remember to turn or swipe to the right.

Until next time.



The issue with over compartmentalization

Greetings readers,

It’s been a while!

My bad…

I have something that’s been sitting in my mind, that seems to be beneficial but it’s actually irksome.

Over compartmentalization…

Now on the surface it seems like a good thing.

It creates more jobs for more people.

It allows people to get more specialized knowledge.

Putting more compartments into a thing makes it better.

Or does it…

Let’s continue with a mechanical metaphor.

The extra cogs benefit the machine when all the cogs are doing what they are supposed to be doing.

However when some of the cogs aren’t doing what their job properly, it prevents more cogs from working than it realizes.

This really grinds the gears of the cogs that actually want to perform their function properly.

It creates a sickness in the machine that is not noticeable at first if noticed at all.

When it does become noticeable though the keeper of the machine decides to dispose of that area entirely.

The good cogs and bad cogs get thrown out because it’s easier to start over than it is to repair the area.

Thus everything gets replaced, but there really is no marked improvement.

The cure doesn’t fix the symptoms because the powers that be are focused on quantity of cogs instead of quality.

Oh and don’t become an old cog…

The powers that be seem to really stop caring about how hard you worked before you aged out of being part of the machine.

The cogs metaphor is intentional.

When looking at people as numbers or things the owner of the machine never being a cog himself knows there’s a sickness.

However, never being a cog himself doesn’t understand how to create the cure.

This maintains the cycle known as the status quo.

It’s hard to challenge the status quo at the bottom or as the smallest cog.

There are boundaries that prevent the issues from adequately being solved.

Even if you went against the groove the powers that be can easily replace you with a cog that falls in line.

That is the nature of the beast, and trying to be the best damn cog you can be while wrestling the beast gets really old… really fast.

Why I don’t agree with political advertising

It’s that time of year AND it’s THAT year.

The 2020 presidential election is around the corner.

That means we are being inundated with advertisements.

This post isn’t going to lean one way or the other, but it is going to be an observation and explanation on why certain people don’t win.

They don’t win because the advertisements of their opponents is focused on the negative aspects of the opponent.

It’s not about what they actually plan to do for the people using their influence.

It appeals to our emotions.

That’s what you want to do when marketing something.

However, constantly talking about your opponent is imprinting his or her name in the subconscious mind of the general populace.

There are definitely polarized people who are going to vote one way or the other, advertisements be damned.

The people that win elections are those who are unsure.

It’s a wild card because they can go one way or the other.

So when they get to the voting booth they will vote on name recognition.

It’s not people who aren’t sure that vote on name recognition, most of us do.

Therefore, if I were running political ads, my face and name would be all over them and my opponent would be nowhere near my ads.

Debates are for sharing the space an opponent not campaign ads.

Instead of focusing on what we DON’T want, we should be putting more energy into what we DO want.

Focusing on what we don’t want will manifest that outcome.

Focusing on what we DO want will manifest that outcome.

I see it in people’s social media profiles too.

The memes talking shit about the person they aren’t voting for.

I’ve seen politicians even talk more about their opponents and it’s all trash.

I’m disappointed that this is what we’ve come to.

I often talk about how our thoughts manifest into reality and how we are always co-creating our reality with others.

Look at how you’re promoting (or not promoting) about the candidate you believe in.

Are you going to like what will happen if the thing you’re focusing on becomes reality?

If not, I highly recommend changing your focus from what you don’t want to what you do want.

Until next time.



5 Value Quotes to Motivate You

We all know that no matter how much or how often we get into that place of “flow” where you’re motivated and everything is going smoothly, there will come a point where everything falls flat.

I believe that we all experience a lack of motivation at one point or another.

I feel unmotivated, a lot.

Those of you who know me, may be surprised to hear me say that, but I really do.

One thing that has helped me in becoming motivated or getting around a lack of motivation to get things done is through personal development.

In my personal development work I find snippets of things from various places that I find valuable.

Today, I wanted to take the time to share this value with you with the following 5 quotes.

Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value.

Albert Einstein

Joy, feeling one’s own value, being appreciated and loved by others, feeling useful and capable of production are all factors of enormous value for the human soul.

Maria Montessori

There is no value in life except what you choose to place upon it and no happiness in any place except what you bring to it yourself.

Henry David Thoreau

The major value in life is not what you get. The major value in life is what you become.

Jim Rohn

All work is noble; the only ignoble thing is to live without working. There is need to realize the value of work in all its forms whether manual or intellectual, to be called ‘mate,’ to have sympathetic understanding of all forms of activity.

Maria Montessori

I hope that at least one of these was helpful to you as you work through your Monday.

Or any day that you happen upon this post for that matter.

I’m always glad to pass on the things that I gather to maybe help others too.

Until next time.



Reflections on Passion and Boredom

Sometimes when I’m reading I run across passages that speak to me. I share my thoughts on this one in particular.

When I read this, I paused to think about the meaning behind it.

When put in this way, it hit me different.

Kind of like a revelation that was presented to me in that moment.

It never occurred to me that when I get tired of something I’m passionate about that I might be blah somewhere else.

It’s strange because when I think about people being hurtful there is a need that’s not being met somewhere else.

Why should boredom be any different when the thing I’m bored with is something that I’m passionate about?

If I am bored, a need isn’t being met somewhere else.

Don’t get me wrong, I am an advocate for embracing boredom.

In this day and age we are so plugged in and going so fast, we forgot how to be bored and unfortunately, our children haven’t had the opportunity to sit in boredom to begin with.

It’s kind of like smartphones.

I know I lived a pretty decent life before the iPhone, so why can I not imagine life without it now?

It’s an interesting concept.

The spaces I have found that are the best places to be bored are in down time.

Sometimes it’s a good idea to let yourself be bored, especially in down time.

It requires your mind and your imagination to get to work to keep you entertained.

The spaces that you don’t want boredom to set in is in your passions, like the quote states.

That’s not to say that your passion will be easy everyday or that it will be the most interesting thing in the world everyday, but you don’t want that fire to go out.

You also don’t want to be so inundated with your passion that you don’t make time for anything else. That burns the candle faster.

The point is that in order to keep going with fire takes self-awareness.

Creating that space to be self-aware can come from meditation and journaling.

That isn’t an exhaustive list by any means, but those are the ones that I know of fairly well.

So today, take a moment to think about where you are in each area of your life, and find where the fire is starting to go out.

A better description might be where the thread is starting to unravel, but either way, reflect and identify it.

Be come self-aware and honor yourself in that area so you can honor what you love by creating interest in that area. That loose thread.

Until next time.


What I learned about consistency (video)

In this Facebook Live, I cover what I have been learning and kind of talking about with consistency in my last two blog posts.

I did this because I know that sometimes people like to consume content in video format.

Personally, I like to engage in both, it really depends on the day.

I hope that you enjoy this video as much as I actually enjoyed making it, and I’ll see you next time.



How to Add More Consistency to Your New Habits

When trying to turn a new habit into a consistent norm, there are some hard questions you may need to ask yourself.

Consistency is what we do most often when we are comfortable.

The thing we consistently go back to is the norm. It’s our habit.

Some of these consistencies popped up with how we protected ourselves as children from childhood trauma. How we changed ourselves to please our caregivers and maintain connection.

Ironically these defense mechanisms are the reason why we may experience a lack of connection with ourselves and others.

The point is, some of the things we consistently do aren’t healthy.

“Well, how do I get to a healthier place?” you may be asking.

From my research I have some ideas about how to make changes last a little longer if not for the rest of your life.

Most of my examples are weight loss based, but this can be applicable to anything you want to change into a norm that you want to start being consistent with.

The thing about commitment to becoming more consistent is to first and foremost ask,

“Why do I want to make this change?”

Unless you’re smoking or drinking yourself into an early grave, if you are not included in any part of your answer to this question, you’re going to run into problems.

Society has set some preconceived notions on what we should change to become thinner, have more glittery hair, misty looking skin, the perfect looking home, etc.

The problem is if you want to change because you want to have more than that guy Jim who lives next door, or because of societal standards, is this change really going to make you happy?

If you want to lose weight because your boyfriend says you’re fat, that’s a terrible reason and you should probably consider changing your boyfriend not your pants size. Just saying.

Same thing for you fellas, if she’s roasting you on your wonderful dad bod and that’s the only reason you want to make a change, the change you should probably make is to someone who will appreciate you no matter your size.

If you want to lose weight and get healthy because you want to have the energy to play with your kids, that’s better because your desire is to get energy to play with your kids.

You kids could care less how much you weigh or your energy level as long as you spend quality time, but if you want to be able to join in on a game of tag, your kids will love that too.

The point is, you want to adjust the way you play with your kids by making a change for yourself.

If you want to lose weight because you can’t look at yourself in the mirror naked when you are at home by yourself, there’s a deeper issue there, one in which having a certified counselor may help you through whatever is causing that for you.

If you don’t love what you see now, you’ll keep changing the finish line and become unhealthy in the opposite direction.

If you look in the mirror and say,

“I love how I look. I love my body, and so I want to treat my temple a little better because it is awesome.”

Then that’s cool. Flex queen.

The point is you have to assess why do you want to change. Not just with weight loss, but with just about anything. Weight loss is just an easy example.

Once you have that answer, dig a little deeper and ask yourself why a couple of more times.

Channel your inner toddler, and keep asking, “Why? Why? Why?”

“I love how I look. I love my body, and so I want to treat my temple a little better because it is awesome.”


“Because I am worthy as I am now, and I also believe I deserve to strive to live my best life.”

"Because I have been hurting, and all of the hurt, anger, shame, and grief inside has caused me to defend myself and practice self-comfort in unhealthy ways. My body is a machine that has carried me through all of that, and now I want to heal those hurts. I want to show myself and my body some true love for a change. It's not about a number on a scale or a pants size, but about feeling my best and figuring out what 'feeling well' means to me."

Some deep stuff right?

As Lizzo says, whatever body type you are working towards is none of anyone’s business. Skinny doesn’t always mean healthy, despite what popular opinion says.

Good blood test results and great vitals from your doctor every year from your annual check up and your ability to do the amount of physical activity you’re willing to do is your “well.”

Annual physicals are good for you. Preventative medicine is the best medicine. Obviously I'm not a doctor, but catching things early especially when it comes to your health is better than waiting until it's too late.

If you work and office job and being ripped for the Gods is your idea of well (as long as you aren’t doing illegal steroid stuff to promote body dysmorphia), then flex my dude.

If like being a little fluffy, then work honey.

If you can’t gain any weight at all because of genetics or a medical issue, don’t let society’s commentary get you down. I just want you to know that I see you, and I think you can still flex and do you boo. Don’t let nobody tell you different.

Everybody’s body is beautiful, and the definition of “well” doesn’t look the same for everybody.

So now we have dug deeply into the “why?” and there may have been some tears shed, that is okay.

Let go of that voice that says crying makes you weak and a baby. Whoever told you that shit did more damage to you than actually letting you feel your feelings.

Let the tears out or one day it will consume you.

The next thing is that we’ve got to hit is,

“Now that I have asked myself why on a deep level, what are my preconceived notions about what I need to do to achieve what I want?”

Back to the weight loss example, if your preconceived notion is to start eating only 1200 calories tomorrow, or two almonds a day, expect to gain weight back after that crash diet is over.

If you don’t believe me, check out the statistics around yo-yo dieting.

I could write a book, I think most of us can at this point with diet culture. Looking at that book section on Amazon it almost feels like most of us probably have.

Before I continue, I am going to say that I am not a doctor, I do not have a degree in nutrition, nor am I a psychologist or counsellor. I just like to read and try stuff. Some of it is research, but WebMD is not the equivalent to the blood sweat and tears required to be an MD, so if you feel like you need to seek the advice of the MD before engaging in any lifestyle changes, please for the love of God do.

“Is my preconceived notion maintainable for the rest of my life?”

If the answer is no, you probably need to find a new notion.

The thing about maintaining consistent health and consistent wellness is that whatever you do to change your trajectory it has to be something that you can wake up every day (or at least 80% of the time), and do.

As a result of my yo-yo dieting adventures in my early 20s, I hate sweet potatoes and chicken breast on it’s own.

Eating “healthier” can taste good. I have some cook books and websites I like to use that I will talk about in a different post.

If you need to change your preconceived notion because it’s extreme, ask yourself this…

“What is one small change I can do right now, that is low risk, and I can consistently accomplish over time with minimal discomfort?”

The thing about consistency and commitment is you have to start with the smallest habit with the least amount of risk and aversion.

If that means drinking one less soda a day, or eating one more banana, do it. Do it for 30 days, see how you feel. Journal it.

You may find out that after 30 days drinking one less soda a day wasn’t so bad, then try the next thing, journal about it.

You may be thinking, “This is easy!”

Good, it should be if you take it one thing at a time.

I didn’t acquire a taste for unsweet tea overnight, believe me.

That took time, and while my other habits have gone to hell (which is why I am doing research on this topic) that is one I have been able to maintain.

If you feel that you can handle a total overhaul and do a reset, there are some great ones, but just be aware if your mindset and preconceived notions going in have to do with a number or fitting into a certain pants size you may want to address why you feel that way and start small.

Once you feel you have achieved optimal wellness and it’s maintainable for you until the day you die, (the same thing with any other habit you want to do consistently that may have nothing to do with weight loss) you must ask yourself another question and this one is going to be a doozy.

“What is the gateway food/activity/person?”

This one is going to hurt…

It’s not necessarily that you will have to give up this gateway item if you don’t want to, though it might be for the best.

It’s that when you have identified this food/activity/person you have to be real intentional about whether or not you will consume/participate, and how much.

If you don’t feel you can walk away from that situation without crapping on all of your hard work, don’t put yourself in that position.

It is going to suck… a lot.

Especially if you really love that food/activity/person, but you have to decide what’s worse, letting go of that gateway thing or letting go of everything you worked for to achieve whatever it is that you wanted to achieve.

Now, I know this may sound a little extreme, but addiction is not merely restricted to alcohol or drugs.

Sugar, binging food, binging Netflix, internet usage, playing a round of poker with your bros, charging your credit card for that one cute outfit that’s on sale, getting that one lap dance, going out with that friend that you know you’ll get arrested with by the end of the night, adopting another cat even though you already have 5 and you’re supposed to be cut off, opening social media…

We all have a gateway to a vice.

A gateway to a comfort we are trying to change because we have determined for ourselves on a deep level that we are not about that life anymore, and it’s not helping us live our best life.

Unless you live on a farm, or a large house, having more than 5 cats is not helping your cats live their best life.

I know saving all of the cats might seem like a great idea in theory, in practice it’s not always best for you or the cats.

I digress.

I hope this was helpful to you.

This isn’t necessarily the end of my thoughts and research on consistency.

I know there is a lot of stuff written on this topic, but I hope the way I put one thing or another produced an “aha” moment for you.

Until next time.